Did you see the comment from Leisa on my Hot Head ramble a few days back? I agree with her when she says that a subtle change in perspective can really make a big difference. Leisa’s comment brought back a memory. Wanna hear it? It goes a little something like this…
While growing up I often felt defeated and discouraged. I would cry and complain, much like my own five year old does. My step-dad would tell me that he didn’t want to hear me say, ‘I can’t’ and would tell me that I could do anything to which I set my mind. He knew that I could do it, and he was probably the only person to tell me that and keep on me about it. Unfortunately for me, I really thought I couldn’t and no words were going to change that. I already had a firm perspective of what I could and couldn’t do.
Fast forward about 25 years (and a couple years of counseling in my twenties that combatted some pretty low self-esteem) and I still didn’t see it. Oh, I had big dreams of being successful and respected, blah blah blah, but I was stuck in my smallness. It’s not until I met my husband that I really started to believe that anything was possible. He was at the end of a yucky divorce, had lost everything (and I mean EVERYTHING). Oh wait, he got the car that was financed upside down. He was deep in debt from legal fees, and decided to start a computer consulting business.
I watched him work from his tiny, two room condo with his desk in the living room and papers everywhere. I listened to him on the phone talking with potential first customers like Motorola and Honeywell. I realized that the thought that something couldn’t be achieved had never entered this man’s head. It still doesn’t. Everything was possible. You just need to figure out how to make it possible. Brilliant!
I always thought (and would ask him), ‘how do you think you can pull that off if you actually get them as a customer?’ His answer? ‘I’ll figure that out when I get it.’ And he did. And he did. And he did. I’m amazed at what he’s done and how he’s grown his business.
Watching him, my perspective has changed. I have learned that anything is possible and more importantly, it doesn’t have to be done like the people who came before you. As they say, there are more ways than one to skin a cat…or something like that. Take a risk here and there. Especially in art…who is to say that something isn’t right or acceptable? It’s ART. Be yourself and convince people of who you are and what you do.